Year: 2014 (Page 37 of 37)

My un-resolution

It’s been on my radar for several weeks, but after some reading, I’m leaning toward a new resolution, one week into the new year: thinking less about eating healthy. 

Not because we’re obscenely healthy. We’re not. We had a round of the stomach bug over Christmas (fortunately, not all of us and not at full strength. Praise be to Jesus). But I think I will be healthier if healthy eating takes a back burner. I’m not looking to change what and how we eat. I’m changing the way I think about what we eat. 
I’m done with the cringing when we’re presented with a smorgasboard filled with foods we avoid. I’m finished dreading the day-after effects of eating the things that I know wreck havoc on our digestion. I’m throwing away the guilt of a Chick-fil-A date and my grandmother’s noodles.

The problem comes when I think about it too much. When I begin to believe that what I eat not just effects me but controls me. When I believe that I can control my universe by what I put on the table I’ve made a new god, one in the image of a plate.

Because I can’t. Even if I, and 7 generations after me, eats deliciously healthy meals and avoids McDonald’s at all costs, no one writes a cancer-free guarantee. Intellectually, I’ve always known this. In practice, I hate admitting it. 
So here’s what I know: I love where we are. We eat lots of very healthy, sometimes organic, whole food. My kids eat variety. My goal for this year is to begin to eliminate grocery store chicken from the diet and get the real thing – pasture raised, bug-eating birds along with grass fed beef. (We’ll have to eat less of it – it’s too expensive to get huge chunks of meat). 

Through our journey we’ve discovered the extent what we eat effects how we feel, think and act. For instance: a bowl of ice cream sends my son into screaming fits. So, we probably won’t be re-instituting DQ runs any time soon. We won’t return to a grain-filled diet. I’ll keep with the rice and the rice pastas if we need a quick meal. Sandwiches and grocery-store bread won’t be in stock. If  bread appears, it’s the real thing – the stuff that will will go stale in days if not consumed or frozen. 
I’ve told myself over and over again that I want to raise my kids believing that food is inherently good. God created it and said so. I don’t want them to fear it. However, I want them to be mindful eaters, to know where the food comes from. I want them to be grateful for what comes to the table, aware that we find ourselves in a place of privilege in this world when it comes to access to food. I want them to believe it’s only to be expected that the food we enjoy comes to us fairly and that those who help bring it to us are treated in ways that we want to be treated. 
I want to live by – and teach – listening to our bodies, not just in want we crave, but in how we feel in response to our decisions. 
So here’s to a life of good eating. For us, it’s filled with meals that lack processed foods, breads, pastas and dairy products. But that’s not the definition of good eating. Good eating makes us feel good about how it tastes, how it makes us feel and how it got to the table. If we succeed a majority of the time, then we’ll be eating like kings. 

McCommunion

It’s the first Sunday of the month, which means communion in our church. We do it by “intinction” (the less reverent of us refer to it as “rip and dip”) and end with a song. It’s a significant moment in the worship service. 

Then as a family, we went to McDonalds with 2 other families to let the kids run wild, in preparation of the looming storm. And there, I took part in communion again, this time – I believe – closer to the intentions of Jesus. 
Image source, please don’t sue me
Not that “church communion” is wrong or bad or unnecessary. I would very VERY much miss it if the traditional act disappeared from our order of worship. I need those times of being reminded of Jesus’ sacrifice. While at JSUMC, I came to dwell on the liturgy that says Make them be for us the body and blood of Christ so that we may be for the world the body of Christ, redeemed by his blood.  
But while at McDonald’s, over french fries and diet coke, the body of Christ became real to me. Josh was picking up the french fries I spilled. Maddie helped get Miss M’s boot from behind the shoe rack. Jen invited me to feed my family (as well as my soul) in a crockpot cooking date and Lindsay lifted my spirits by making me feel a little more normal. We talked about nothing and everything, probably at the same time. I left in much better shape than I arrived. 
Now, irony that we indulged in McDonald’s aside, some thoughts: You know that phrase, “you are what you eat”? Well, that phrase is old. Like, really really old. Old Testament old. My friend Pastor Trevor, who would probably punch me in the neck if I called him by that title to his face, told me about this. 
Back in “the day” when people ate whatever they killed and found,  it was very un-kosher to eat something that still had the blood in it. Not just because drinking blood was gross, but because they believed if you consumed the blood, you took on the essence of that which was bleeding. If you ate a bleeding goat, you took on the life of that goat. Hence all the food laws and women-in-tents laws and open/gushing-sores laws. So blood was quite the no-no, especially to the most devout. 
And then Jesus says “Drink my blood.” Freak. Right? 
Unless he really meant something by that. Drink the blood because you’re to become like its source. Take on its essence. Allow the blood to live and move through you. 
The way in which you take on his essence is by allowing God to move in the most inner parts of your being. You absorb Him and become like him. 
I propose, also, it’s not just what you eat, but with whom you eat it. Jesus didn’t give the Last Supper to the disciples solo – it was part of a communal meal. It was a coming together. I believe that if we’re to take part in true communion* then we need to eliminate the drive-thru spirituality and start sitting down at the table. Allow a friend to hold your baby and get a refill for someone else while you’re getting up. 
Because you don’t learn how to love others and become like Jesus in solitary confinement. We get a picture of what we’re looking at by reading the scriptures, but we practice living that out in the presence of others. And when those other people are striving towards a life centered on Jesus, those habits and patterns and acts will begin to rub off onto the ways in which you’re living out Christ’s work in your life. You are what you eat and you become like those around you. 
Greater love has no one than this: to lay his life down for his friends (John 15:13).
*And I do prefer the juice to the McNuggets pink ooze.

“God’s timing is perfect” and other things we tell ourselves

Disclaimer: I’m chewing on this concept. This is a blog, not a a theological tome. I think your expectations will match the content. 

Once a ponce a time – last week – the weather was perfect and the kids were driving us crazy, so JJ took them to the park. Correction: he took half of them. The baby isn’t really into the park yet (and JJ couldn’t carry him) and Lady C… well, that’s the point of this post. 
“Go potty and put on your boots and you can go with Daddy to the park,” I said no less than 27 million times. With reminders. Go potty. Hurry up, daddy’s ready to leave. Let’s go potty. And yet, she refused. So when the van pulled away she learned yet another lesson on listening to mommy and daddy. She chippered up relatively quickly and helped me make dinner. 
Then I made the mistake of going to the bathroom. Of course, since she had not went earlier, she wanted to join me. And then she pranced out of the bathroom (she rarely does anything without prancing) and put on her boots and coat. She opened the door and couldn’t find daddy. 
She’s going to thank me for this picture someday.
She believed that when she was ready, Daddy would be there waiting on her to take her to the park. True, the offer was “if you go potty and put on your boots, you can go with daddy to the park.” She just didn’t realize Daddy wasn’t going to wait to the detriment of the other 2 kids buckled in the car. 
When things don’t work out for us in life, it’s tempting to make God the mean daddy who didn’t wait for you to put on your boots when you were asked. Note: asked repeatedly. Encouraged. Spoken to with love and care. Warned. Exhorted. 
We open up the door to the garage and see that the car has left and we missed the trip to the park. But it’s not because God had the departure time wrong – it’s because of our own stubbornness. It’s a trip to the park – not the dentist – so our driver generously invites us along but doesn’t force us into the car seat, kicking and screaming. 
And God doesn’t stop the world from turning while we learn. Other children get to enjoy the ride while we get our act together and, yes, that’s completely fair. This makes God seem like quite the stick-in-the-mud, doesn’t it? So… inflexible. Unreasonable. 
But God’s generosity isn’t found in giving us what we want, when we want it. It’s found in his willingness to allow us to participate in his action with the world. We get to ride along. We’re invited. That’s the grace. That’s the gift. Putting the offer on our timetable simply because we’re just not into listening to instructions pretty much says, “mmm, thanks but no thanks.” 
Fortunately, we have a God that returns from the trip to the park and promises a new offer tomorrow. The park isn’t closed forever and missing one trip doesn’t exclude us from a future of slides and swings. Yesterday’s stubbornness doesn’t count against tomorrow’s plans. 
So after an afternoon of fighting and ignoring instructions, if you find yourself opening the door to an empty garage, please don’t blame God. He had the timing right. The best thing to do is be ready for tomorrow’s trip. 
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