what I want my daughter to know about relationships with men What I want my children to know about relationships with a partner
Originally posted January 16, 2011
The right guy person at the wrong time is still the wrong guy person.
You need to be “me” before you can be “we”.
You become like the people you are around the most; ask, “do I want to become more like him this person?”
If s/he loves you, s/he’ll never say “If you love me…”
People can change. Not all of them do.
Never use sex as a weapon or a tool.
It’s better to be alone and content than with someone and miserable.
If you have to lie to your family and friends about him a person, he’s the person is probably not a great catch.
It’s never okay to [be] hit.
There’s NOTHING wrong with you.
Sometimes, “like the other girls” shouldn’t be the goal.
Don’t look at his the resume, look at his the heart. Just because s/he meets “minimum qualifications” or “seems perfect for you” doesn’t mean you have to date.
Yes, sometimes “good guys” are boring. And keeping up with a rebel can be exhausting.
Most divorces result from arguments about money and sex. Watch carefully how s/he talks about, uses or values these things.
There’s a difference between “perfect” and “healthy”.
Learn how to fight fair.
Stand up for yourself. And learn to say “I’m sorry.”
If s/he doesn’t encourage (which can include challenging) your faith, you’ll probably end up bored or frustrated.
Edited to add:
You will change. So will they.
A person will never solve your problems.
You are your own hero.
It’s always okay to ask for help.