Dearest Beautiful Daughters,
I heard a song on the radio today and it made me cry for you. Without watching the story of the video, I heard how a young girl was “waiting on Superman”…
She’s talking to angels,
Counting the stars
Making a wish on a passing car
She’s dancing with strangers,
Falling apart
Waiting for Superman to pick her up
In his arms, yeah, in his arms, yeah
Waiting for Superman
Oh, dear girls, please. Don’t.
You don’t need a superman. You’re not waiting on anyone to make you who you are. God already did that. Your life doesn’t start with a romantic relationship. It has already begun and a “superman” can only add to what you already offer the world.
The language of our culture wants to convince you that someone’s attention gives you significance. It’s simply not true. You are already significant. The world sings songs about how we’re supposed to bide time until our Superman can show up, when he’s finished saving others. But this isn’t the saving we need.
My prayer is that you will someday find yourself in the strong arms of a “man of steel”, but only because he will need his strength to match your own. Your will, your passion, your focus – these are your gifts offered to us all. You don’t need Superman to have permission to unleash your fire for life.
Dear daughters, don’t wait to be saved. Do some saving. Reach out, connect with others. Be a person who others gravitate toward because your energy brings them life.
Wishing on cars is no way to pass the days. Don’t wait for someone to pick you up. Get up, shake the dust off. Show the world you’re not afraid to get a little dirty. This doesn’t mean that when someone offers you a hand, you’re too good to refuse it. Never, because partnership is always better than solo work. Just remember that asking for help – which is always okay – is different than being saved, if someone other than God is offering salvation.
It’s okay to have weaknesses. Don’t misread this as a mandate for perfection. Please, don’t be afraid of your strength. As it was written:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”
Much love,
Mama
Mama