Year: 2018 (Page 1 of 4)

The Mountain

If you follow the Christian calendar, this is the final call for the season of Advent, of waiting for God’s appearance. It comes about as we prepare to celebrate the birth of sweet baby Jesus in the manger, with a belief that God’s presence will return to earth.

This is perhaps my favorite of the theological concepts. Easter is the holiday of “redemption” but I find God’s action of taking human form far more redeeming to humankind. Surely, if God thought to don a suit of flesh and blood, we shouldn’t feel the shame in our shrouds. It’s been a long journey for me to reclaim this sense that our humanness is good, and nothing has helped me more than unrolling a yoga mat. That’s where I have strict orders to feel, to move, to be in this body previously declared as my foe.

Our bodies and our humanness were part of the original design, “and God saw that it was good.” The seeking of God – the less religious might call it Love or something less likely to invoke church trauma – is, I believe, a basic part of our human nature. The historian Yuval Noah Harari writes in Sapiens that our species actually thrived beyond the capacity of other sapiens because of the evolved ability to tell a story. This quest for meaning and connection allowed us to become the dominating species of this earth, for both our benefit and, sometimes, bringing us to despair. Where can we find this sense of connection with the divine?

In ancient times, both before and during the time of Jesus, we find a belief and a practice of seeking out the divine by looking up – what writer Diana Butler Bass calls “the holy elevator” in her book, Grounded. People would climb the mountains to feel a holy presence, to the point where some mountains were seen as the literal dwelling places of God – and thus a building committee was formed, a capital campaign established, and walls went up for a new temple. People wanted access to the deities, so building a home atop the hill became common practice in many religions. The mountain was the place where humans met the divine. It was where heaven met earth.

Written into the narrative of the Jesus story (among other religious texts) is an arrival of the divine. But this version of divinity doesn’t land atop the mountain: this story begins in the basin, out back in the parking garage. And the divine meeting place doesn’t have gold-drenched altars; this holy collision comes with a sciatic nerve, a pre-frontal cortex, two lungs, a heart, and 10 toes. Being of Middle Eastern descent, I’d guess he arrived with an enviable mop of dark hair.

In the flesh. Covered in the flesh of his mother, the pasty vernix that kept him safe on arrival, that other mammals lick from the skin to allow for easy breathing. This form of divinity required a mix of proteins and carbohydrates and vitamin D and his mother likely fretted about her milk production because she had never nursed before – maybe he even had a tongue tie, we can’t be sure because the Mommy Facebook Groups didn’t exist yet.

There was a group of people 2000 years ago that believed that God would save them from their captive situation, and they believed that this God showed up unable to control his own bladder, because that is the plight of newborn creatures.

With the Jesus story of divine presence on earth, the man walked the known world leaving a trail of divinity that stuck like the glitter from a child’s Christmas craft even after he made an exit, remnants forever stuck to our existence, known to the scripture writers as spirit. Along his way, moving from common carpenter to master spiritual teacher, Jesus keeps pointing out the hidden divinity in all humans he meets along the way. His calls for peacemaking and loving neighbor aren’t just because the world works easiest when we’re all nice: it’s because he knows all people begin with a divine spark and get embedded in this earth with a body. Sometimes a covering of skin and opposing political opinions make it difficult to see that God makes a home in humans, not just the mountains. 

Among the million and one things that Jesus did showing up on earth, here’s the one that brings me to tears every time: this divine appearance means we no longer have to climb mountains.

We are the mountain.

You are the mountain.

The first yoga pose I learned to teach was Tadasana: mountain pose. You stand (or even sit) with the base of your body firmly rooted in the earth, growing and stretching up toward the heavens. You feel supported with the earth below you but you feel the spaciousness of your height. Turning your palms forward will gently rotate the shoulder blades, giving a sense of openness of the heart. If you close your eyes and draw your attention to it, you can feel the earth holding you down while heaven lifts you up. You’re connected to both places.

You are the mountain. You, your body, becomes the place where heaven and earth meet. 

No, you are not God. You bear God. You reveal God. Every day is a new opportunity to imitate our maiden Mary in miniature ways, allowing something that began with God’s breath to move through our bodies and into the world.

We no longer have to go to the mountain to know the divine. God made a home here, among us.  

 

The Life-Light was the real thing:
Every person entering Life
he brings into Light.
He was in the world,
the world was there through him,
and yet the world didn’t even notice.
He came to his own people,
but they didn’t want him.
But whoever did want him,
who believed he was who he claimed
and would do what he said,
He made to be their true selves,
their child-of-God selves.
These are the God-begotten,
not blood-begotten,
not flesh-begotten,
not sex-begotten.

The Word became flesh and blood,
and moved into the neighborhood.
We saw the glory with our own eyes,
the one-of-a-kind glory,
like Father, like Son,
Generous inside and out,
true from start to finish.

John 1:9-14 (The Message)

For No and Every Good Reason

On a good, random Tuesday in the middle of a holiday-less season, I’m not the type of person who has the energy for cuteness. I don’t cut crusts from my children’s sandwiches (nay, I rarely feed them sandwiches, so bread alone is a cause for celebration around here, #aimlowparenting), let alone cookie-cutter them into fun shapes.

My driving force has always been utility. Functionality. Efficiency. Be it from wiring or training, I love a well-oiled machine, a process that works. When all children’s coats get hung on the correct coat hanger, you shall see this woman dance mightily. Sheer happiness.

But let me tell you about a few other people. My friend Brownwyn is killing it with that shelf-sitting elf. Ingenuity! Hilarity! Bronwyn is also not much for crust-cutting, but this time of year she breaks out all the props. Why? Because her daughter loves it and because it is fun.

Another friend, Kristen, has regularly engaged in 25 Days of Christmas, activities for her 2 little ones as simple as reading a story or putting glow sticks in a bath tub or as elaborate as decorating one another as a Christmas tree. Her kids love it – and she loves it.  (She shares her pro-tip: gather all supplies early, put them in a tub and store in the basement. Reuse each year, altering just a few. Then you’re not daily trying to make sure you have all the necessary supplies. She really is a genius.)

And then there’s my friend, Jill and her sidekick Teagan. They just took 75 wiley little girls, covered them in glitter, and taught them how to shahsay across the stage to extremely old classical music. They had to manage ticket sales and disappointed parents who couldn’t get enough seats. They had to carry couches and recruit husbands and big brothers. They had to pin hats onto toy soldiers and at one point I saw Miss Jill collecting tickets herself.

The entire production made no money for either woman – based on the level of gorgeousness of the costumes, it probably took a bit of personal financial investment beyond what they gave to hours of choreographing, hemming, steaming, marking the stage, and reminding our little princesses to smile.

And why in the world would anyone embark on such an endeavor, completely devoid of functionality or efficiency? Sure, we can make a list of soft skills these girls come away with – confidence, getting over stage fright, the work ethic of learning the parts – but are those the things behind the 87 pounds of sequins? I can hardly imagine it so.

Miss Jill remarked more than once that this was a dream of hers, a favorite show, and to create her own rendition – specifically using 3- and 4-year-old Snowflakes – is a feat of strength. It brought joy to the girls in the production and it lit up her own joy to see it play out on a stage.

Joy is a concept I keep returning to, because it’s something that doesn’t make sense yet is completely necessary for a fulfilling life. Joy doesn’t work itself into a spreadsheet; it cannot be counted. None of the women I’ve been watching are attempting any awards or seeking admiration for their efforts. They simply love something, they love doing it, they love the response from those who are engaged – namely, children, who still have space for magic in their lives.

Our response to watching such joy can go a few directions. We can compare and compete, putting ourselves as the “less than loosers” who simply cannot live up to such high standards. All the nay-saying folk on the sidelines tend to feel like my good-hearted and holiday-energized friends are out to prove something to others. But, psssst…. I have a secret. They’re not.

Their joy has nothing to do with us.

Unless we want to share in it with them.

And in that case, all of these women would say the same thing: the more, the merrier.

Joy is something that enlivens and warms and welcomes and there’s really no stopping it unless it’s our own personal pride and sense of worth. But if you can get around those things, you can join me in a seat at the Star theater, dripping with tears to know that someone believed something to be beautiful enough to be worth so much time, money, and energy, and she even invited my girls to join alongside.

Joy isn’t competitive and there is no bottom line to joy. We won’t max out. Someone’s joy at placing an elf in yet another comical position will not – I repeat, will not – suck all the joy out of your little joy-pocketbook. They’re not frivolously spending the world’s joy, leaving less for you and me. In fact, their efforts at merriment are multiplying the joy in the world, or at least in my home.

Because even if I don’t get an elf or glow sticks or spend 927 hours creating a ballet, I am reminded that joy is right here, present to me, if I reach for it. No one is keeping it from me, unless it’s me. In fact, each of these joyful endeavors feel like a personal invitation – not to do everything they do, but to feel inspired to make more space for joy in my own life, but my own version.

Perhaps joy is a bit like the big man in red we’re still praying the oldest can find belief in: you only receive if you believe.

Why Browns fans are my favorite people

Growing up, my family was NFL-unitarian. We had strong beliefs as it pertained to college football, but on Sunday afternoons, we were pretty welcoming of all traditions. My dad would watch whatever was on without deciding that one team was better than another. Because it’s human nature, the teams with proximity to us took precedent, so we would elevate those, and when we were forced to choose each December, we qualified as a Bengal household. (It is my belief that we defaulted to Cincinnati allegiance because my grandfather was an avid fan of the Reds).

As an adult, I married into a similar football religiosity in that my husband cared deeply for the non-professional football games, but enjoyment of the NFL came through participation in a fantasy league. My kids ask when games are on, “who do we want to win?” and it changes from week to week. Because nothing unites like a common enemy, we sometimes say, “not the Patriots.”

But I have friends who love the pro football. They have jerseys and belief systems and they schedule their Sundays around such things. I like all my friends, but I have to tell you that I have a secret favorite: the Browns fans.

The Browns don’t win. Because afternoon football needs more than the game to make it interesting, one broadcast ran the stats on the loosingest team on the road. The Browns were second, behind the Lions. “Good heavens,” I thought. “The Browns can’t even win at loosing.”

The other pro teams in the CLE have redeemed their loosing years either through breeding talent like LeBron or by a major motion picture with Charlie Sheen that can be quoted ad nauseum. But the Browns have none of that, and they have to wear orange.

Yet the fans show up. They complain, they declare they should have found a new team decades ago, but they cannot let go. Why?

I call it hope.

Rob Bell defines hope as the belief that tomorrow will be different than today. (Despair, it’s contrasting belief, is the belief that the future will be the same as the past.) So those Browns fans tune in, not with optimism blinding them to the lack of particular talent; they’re depressingly aware of their deficits. But somehow, they believe that the deficits don’t define the team.

If I need someone to put me right again, I turn to my Browns fan friends because if they can believe that about a bunch of 300 pound strangers, they can believe it about me.

I don’t need more people who can be faithful when all is right; I need people who are comfortable and familiar when things don’t pan out the way we dreamed. I don’t need more friends who can win, and gloat, and make insta-perfect lives with the impeccable taste in draft choices; I need people in my life who live honestly in the everyday realities but with a sense of hope that can drown out the negativity. I need people who make the active effort to believe that the next day, the next game, the next season, will be different from today.

I cannot name who is first in the AFC or any of the other facts and letters that float about on a Sunday. I don’t have flags to wave or even a fantasy running back in which I can rest my hope. Instead, I’ll take the fans that defy the popular claim that if you’re not winning, you might as well quit. Nope, I’ll find a seat by those who keep showing up.

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