Clearly there are some folk in the world who need a step-by-step guide.

  1. When s/he says “stop”, then stop all sexual acts.
  2. If s/he cannot say “stop” because s/he is inebriated, confused, asleep, talking to a friend, or otherwise unable to respond to your request at the current moment, then don’t have sex* with her.
  3. If s/he is wearing clothes that turn you on / reveal the fun parts / remind you of a centerfold, but s/he says “no”, don’t presume you can have sex with her.
  4. If she is buck naked and says “sure” but then changes her mind and says stop, then stop. Immediately.
  5. If you “love her” and “want to spend the rest of your life with her” and “cannot live without her” and she says stop – or cannot say stop (see #2) – then stop.

No matter what she is wearing, or not wearing; no matter what her state of mind or conscious; no matter if she’s in the middle of Times Square on NYE or in your bed, her body was not created for you and your enjoyment. A person’s body is not a commodity or something to consume.  Her body is hers. She decides. Always.  If she is unable to decide, you do not get to decide for her.  It’s called consent. *If you do not have consent, it is called rape, no matter how intoxicated, rich, talented or horny you happen to be at the moment.

Again, for our list-driven audience.  The following are people who, while they may enjoy numerous privileges based on race and social class, still must adhere to these rules:

  1. Athletes
  2. Millionaires
  3. Politicians
  4. Law enforcement officials
  5. Clergy
  6. Drunk college students
  7. You

Someday, I hope to live in a world where I don’t have to write angry blog posts because people don’t treat women as dignified humans.

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