Clearly there are some folk in the world who need a step-by-step guide.
- When s/he says “stop”, then stop all sexual acts.
- If s/he cannot say “stop” because s/he is inebriated, confused, asleep, talking to a friend, or otherwise unable to respond to your request at the current moment, then don’t have sex* with her.
- If s/he is wearing clothes that turn you on / reveal the fun parts / remind you of a centerfold, but s/he says “no”, don’t presume you can have sex with her.
- If she is buck naked and says “sure” but then changes her mind and says stop, then stop. Immediately.
- If you “love her” and “want to spend the rest of your life with her” and “cannot live without her” and she says stop – or cannot say stop (see #2) – then stop.
No matter what she is wearing, or not wearing; no matter what her state of mind or conscious; no matter if she’s in the middle of Times Square on NYE or in your bed, her body was not created for you and your enjoyment. A person’s body is not a commodity or something to consume. Her body is hers. She decides. Always. If she is unable to decide, you do not get to decide for her. It’s called consent. *If you do not have consent, it is called rape, no matter how intoxicated, rich, talented or horny you happen to be at the moment.
Again, for our list-driven audience. The following are people who, while they may enjoy numerous privileges based on race and social class, still must adhere to these rules:
- Athletes
- Millionaires
- Politicians
- Law enforcement officials
- Clergy
- Drunk college students
- You
Someday, I hope to live in a world where I don’t have to write angry blog posts because people don’t treat women as dignified humans.